Coaching Conversationally

When we treat man as he is, we make him worse than he is; when we treat him as if he already were what he potentially could be, we make him what he should be.

Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

This workshop is about invisible, conversational coaching based on deep listening, respect and a solution-oriented approach.  It is relevant to anyone who wishes to be useful to others. Coaching is about enabling self-directed learning and development where the person being coached usually sets the agenda.  Great coaching conversations have three conditions:  The person feels heard, understood and accepted.  What happens quite naturally then is a genuinely non self-conscious dialogue.  Our natural creativity comes to bear, and both parties feel enhanced by the exchange.

The intention of coaching conversationally is not to judge, nor direct, nor tell (mostly), but It is to help and empower the person to address their own challenges and opportunities. The philosophy informing this workshop is solution-oriented, which means we are respectful of problems, but much more interested in solutions. And almost always the other person’s solution is better than our solution!  So: coach don’t tell!

The job as a solution-oriented coach is a bit like the ‘sweepers’ in the ice-based sport curling.  You are enabling someone to get somewhere under their own steam – just finessing their path along the way.  Another useful metaphor is blowing on faint embers to help them catch fire.  Your job is to spot signs of possibility and help them actualise.  What are their relatively under-utilised capabilities, past successes, exceptions to the problem etc?   How can they utilise these now?  Ask them!