Being at Ease With Others
We all have quite variable degrees of social insecurity. It seems universal that we are cautious not only with strangers, but also with people we know. Our wiring suggests we have this wariness as a default defence before we ascertain if the person is friendly. The surprising flip side of this is that everyone else is potentially wary of me. An unusual demonstration of this is presented involving ice-creams in elevators. The implications are various: we should understand this as a self-care mechanism; we ought take care to soothe these anxieties in others; but we should not trust everyone all the time. Our basic default should be to trust, unless peoples’ behaviours indicate otherwise. If we want people to relax around us, we also probably shouldn’t eat ice-creams in elevators!