Psychologist Sharon Bent and I discuss Living Well, and we begin by exploring the equation: Reality + Mindset = Experience. The workshop is largely about the freedom of being able to change experience by changing our mindset by changing 1. what we pay attention to and 2. the manner or style of that attention. We then examine realistic optimism in terms of three styles of thought: permanence, pervasiveness and personal. By changing our thoughts to be realistically optimistic our experience in life is greatly enhanced. Finally we discuss the use of self-compassion to alter our mindset using our natural affiliative system to calm self and help reframe our experience.